For Mothers of Little Boys

For Mothers of Little Boys

You may see your little guy doing things and you wonder, "What is this creature I gave birth to? He has no fear and thus, no sense. Is he trying to kill himself, or trying to kill me, with worry?"

One of the first things we have to teach our little boys is fear, because initially they have none. They really think they can slay dragons and bad guys. They may only be five years old, but already they are ready to tackle any danger with nothing more than their indomitable spirit.


As soon as we moved to Wyoming we rented a movie about a family in the 1880s moving to Wyoming. The hero of the story, David Jansen, bought some land somewhere out west. When he moved his family there, he found the same parcel of land had been sold more than once by unscrupulous land dealers back east. The people who already claimed the land called Jansen and claim jumper and proceeded to beat him up unmercifully.

Wes was five years old at the time, and was watching the fist fight scene with rapt attention. When the bad guys were beating up David Jansen, Wes’ adventurous spirit kicked in. He yelled at the guys on the screen, "Hey, what are you doing! Leave that guy alone!" Then he stuck his thumb up, pocked his pointer finger out, and curled in the last three fingers. He made his hand into a pistol. He aimed his trusty weapon at the tv screen and yelled, "Pow, pow, pow! That’s what I would do to you if I was there." Five years old, less than five days in Wyoming, and he was already taming the wild west.

And moms, that is your son. They are full of danger, excitement, and adventure. They want to reenact the dangerous scenes they see on the tv movies. They want to charge the enemy lines, out-fast draw the bad guy, and climb the tallest mountain. Or garage.

I know three little boys that got GI Joes for Christmas. What does a boy do with a doll? These boys decided to turn them into real soldiers. They cut a sheet into three 8 inch squares, tied strings to the four corners, and tied the other ends to the GI Joes. Then they climbed onto the roof of the garage and threw the GI Joes off and watched them float to the ground. Ok, they didn’t really float, they plummeted, but we tried, my brothers and I, we tried to make something alive, vital and exciting about those lifeless pieces of plastic an aunt had given us. And when we grew weary of throwing the GI Joes off the roof, we jumped off ourselves. Our dad had something to say about that, in rather strong and convincing terms.

The Bible has a story of a teenage boy telling King Saul, "I’m not afraid of the giant Goliath. Let me go fight him."

King Saul says, "You can’t go fight that Giant. You are only a boy."

That boy, David, says, "Well, I’ve already killed a lion and a bear in hand-to-hand combat. How bad can a giant be? Besides, ‘The Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine." David then planted a stone in the forehead of the Goliath. (1 Samuel 17).

We don’t know what to do with adventurous boys today. We want to tame them, even shame them, into something soft and gentle. But, we lose something incredibly valuable when we do that. Yes, we definitely need to protect them from danger they don’t understand, and teach them to temper their impulses. But, if Jessie had robbed his son of his masculine nature, we wouldn’t have the story of David and Goliath in our Bibles today.

I’ll address this in a future article when I discuss the three aspirations of little boys.

Meanwhile, what adventurous spirit does your little boy show?

Warren Baldwin


Gorges Smythe said...

We seem to be trying to turn our girls into men and our boys into women. It's all part of the plan, make no mistake.

Nichole D. Akao said...

I love this. I have five younger brothers and just thinking about the trouble they got into scares me (since I am pregnant with my first boy!) and makes me laugh at the same time.
And being that My husband is very adventurous, I can only imagine what's ahead. :)

Katherines Corner said...

Our grandsons are very adventurous. they have no fear. I am fortunate to have five beautiful grandchildren ages 3-14. Thank you for visiting Katherines Corner. I am following your blog and look forward to more visits. Hugs

Warren said...

George - it sure seems that way. I know we want to teach principles of good relationships, getting along, etc. But, at the same time, it is the more aggressive spirit that protects society from danger and the criminal element. We have to have some ruggedness or society will collapse under the weight of cruel oppression.

Warren said...

Nichole - sounds like you are in for some exciting adventure! Congratulations to you all. That is exciting.

Warren said...

Katherine - Cheryl liked your fb page and blog and I know she will be back for more visits.

Marja Verschoor-Meijers said...

Warren, such a good post! We are turning our boys (and men) into girls and this is a disaster. We currently have a Christian organisation in the Netherlands for men who want to have adventure again, they have their website in english as well, see:

Amanda Schrieber said...

Great post! As a mother of a little boy, I can relate to some of the things you posted. There are many times I have thought to myself, "what was he thinking?" I have to remind myself that God uniquely made them male and female...and little boys are born with "warrior" in their hearts. Their need for adventure and victory runs deep within. I pray God helps me understand and mold my son to be a great warrior for God...fearless in his faith...hungry for a life of adventure shared with Him. Looking forward to your upcoming post!

Warren said...

Marja - I will check out this website. What are some of the things that they do?

Amanda - What were they thinking? Good question. Puddles, bugs, climbing trees, they are all invitations calling to them. The warrior heart is good; just needs to be directed in the right way.

Thanks for commenting, Marja and Amanda. WB