Sunday

Memorial Day: For Others to Enjoy

MEMORIAL DAY: FOR OTHERS TO ENJOY

God gives a man wealth, possessions and honor, so that he lacks nothing his heart desires, but God does not enable him to enjoy them, and a stranger enjoys them instead ...." Eccl. 6:2

The writer of Ecclesiastes observes that some people are blessed with material prosperity, but for some reason they don’t get to enjoy it. Some wealthy people die young leaving their fortunes to others. Is there fairness in this?

George Washington comes to my mind when I read Ecclesiastes 6:2. George was blessed in many ways. He was born into a Virginia family that had some money and a nice estate. When his older brother and sister-in-law passed away, George inherited even more land and money. Then, when he married the widow Martha Custis, he received even more material prosperity and land. With Martha George also received two children, a young son and daughter.

Things could not have been better for George Washington. Except, even Washington lived in real life and not in a myth. Rich tastes and careless spending on English finery and furnishings plunged him into debt. His young son was bit pampered and never developed into the disciplined young man Washington hoped he would. Then, illness claimed his life when he was still young. His adopted daughter had seizures and died when she was only seventeen. Plus, Washington always seemed to be caught in the middle of the ever-present tension of conflicting economic views between the Colonies and England.

Washington attacked his debt problem. He did his best with his children, providing tutoring for his son and medical care he could for his daughter. He tried a number of political measures before plunging into the Revolutionary War. The war was not avoided and would consume seven years of his life, all of them away from his beloved wife and plantation home, Mt. Vernon.

Washington next had to deal with an underpaid and undermanned army. He lost more battles than he won. A gossip campaign sought to unseat him as Commander in Chief of the Continental Army. His troops often went without pay, shoes, shirts and food. Some of his Massachusetts soldiers actually went for four days without a meal. Naturally, there were many desertions when conditions became so deplorable for the troops.

Through all of these hardships Washington hung on. His Continental Army won the War. But, he had the painful chore of dispersing his troops without pay. Many of them, perhaps most, would never receive proper compensation for their years of service.
Toward the end of his military career Washington gave a speech to 500 officers. These men, too, were hoping to receive adequate pay. Washington stood solemnly before them, put on his new reading glasses and said, "Gentlemen, you will permit me to put on my spectacles, for I have not only grown gray, but almost blind in the service of my country." Some officers, hardened from years of war, openly wept. He accepted that the only reward he and most Revolutionary War soldiers would receive would be the virtue of having done what they believed needed to be done.

"God gives a man wealth, possessions and honor, so that he lacks nothing his heart desires, but God does not enable him to enjoy them, and a stranger enjoys them instead." George Washington received many physical and emotional blessings. But, he also knew pain and loss. And much of the work he and others did was for the benefit of posterity.

It may be that God calls us to a work or ministry that produces fruit for others to enjoy. Rather than recoil in fear or frustration at that, remember the many benefits we enjoy earned by the work, hunger and sacrifice of those before us.

Today, Memorial Day, let us remember all those men and women in uniform actively serving their country. If we get to enjoy today, it is because they don’t.

Warren Baldwin

Friday

Scotland, Wedding and Computer

Scotland, Wedding and Computer

The last couple of weeks have been busy, which you can probably tell by how slow I have been to publish a new post and visit your blogs.

In the last week we drove a daughter to an airport 3 1/2 hours a way so she could fly to Europe for part of her college program. She is doing a pre-student teaching program in Scotland and is loving the little kids there!















A few days later Cheryl and I drove to Oklahoma City for a wedding. We drove back for Sunday services then I flew to Las Vegas to perform my niece's wedding.















In between these trips I ended one college class I am teaching and started another! And now I am getting ready for 3 weeks of Bible camps in July I am teaching for. One of them is a family camp in Montana. Anyone care to get more information on this one? Here are a couple of pictures.





Something has had to give the last couple of weeks, and the blog was one of them (mowing grass was, too). I even missed a post on another blog I write for, Titus 2 In Action. This Sunday I am going to post something for Memorial Day, and then have the next Favorite Marriage Books post up next week.

In the meantime, you might enjoy this brief look at what future computers might look like. This 1 minute video is from a German company, I understand.







Have a great weekend!

Warren

Wednesday

Signing in the Walden Books

Signing in the Walden Books

Want to write a book? Do signings? Listen to this song ...

Warren

Sunday

Favorite Marriage Posts #5

FAVORITE MARRIAGE BOOKS #5

Welcome back to our series on Favorite Marriage Books, where readers and fellow bloggers share a book about marriage with us that made an impression on their lives and marriages.

If you have a book you would like to guest post about, please let me know!


Lendy Bartlett


Lendy is pictured here with his wife and two daughters.
Lendy and I met in a graduate school class on preaching seven or eight years ago. After our second class I convinced him to move from Texas to kansas - a BIG move for this Texas fellow. We worked together for two years. Following his work with us he moved to Memphis, TN to attend graduate school full time. He completed his M.Div. last year and now preaches in Mississippi. Lendy presents Intimate Allies as his favorite book on marriage ...
Intimate Allies is sort of the "proverbs" and modern day "Song of Solomon" all mixed into one. Tremper Longman does O.T. theology in a way that gives wisdom and guidance on a number of different areas of marriage: Who are we? What is God's design for marriage? And, he addresses many other issues as well, deep meaningful issues of human existence-straight from Scripture. Yet, interwoven into biblical theology are modern stories of real life marriages which were all on the brink of destruction, written by Dan Allender, a Christian Counselor.

This mixture of biblical theology and modern narrative created deep discussion and ultimately was used as a tool to take Meagan and me to another dimension in our marriage.

One specific example: As Longman described from the text what it means to be a man and how that should apply to my marriage as a husband, I was able to identify where I shrink back in fear at times from my role as a leader in our home. This rears it's head most often when I question my abilities at work, and then bring those fears to my wife. Meagan does not need that. She needs me to let someone else absorb those fears and simply ... lead. Longman's brilliant discussion of how God designed me convicted me to see this. Then Allender showed me stories of other men who struggled with the same problem (while it may have looked different) in other men - men who were not embracing how God created them and then allowing God to use that in the marriage.
Encourage Lendy to continue to write on his blog at Lendon Bartlett.

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Sonya Thompson


Sonya Thompson is a blogger, mother, wife and writer. Sonya and Tim have been married for 17 years. They have 5 biological children, and one adopted child from Russia.

As 2008 came to a close, our marriage hit rock bottom. We had both become indifferent in our relationship, which caused communication to completely stop. We tried reading and suggesting different marriage books but never found the same book helpful. Finally, God led us to go to a Christian counseling group in our area.

Ater the initial visit, it was apparent that both of us needed to work through some past hurts. Using Godly wisdom, they decided to have us meet once a week "together" in a session with my counselor (a female) and Tim's counselor (a male). While re-opening past hurts was painful, we grew as a couple because we were able to watch the other one open up and then see their point of view. This was a "safe" environment for both of us.

After seeing the counselors (sometimes together and sometimes separately) for one year, we graduated. It was an exciting day and we now have an amazingly open and close relationship. It's not a better marriage, but a new resurrected marriage! God is in the healing business.
Sonya Lee has a blog Truth 4 The Journey, maintains a website at Sonya Lee Thompson and writes for Titus 2 In Action, a blog for families.

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Amanda

Amanda is a wife, mom, pharmacist and writer. On her blog she writes about theology, missions, prayer, evangelism, politics, health, homeschooling and other topics. She has also written some great articles about marriage and family. She shares her thoughts about her favorite marriage book with us ...


I want to share this book with you because I believe the Lord used it greatly not only to help change "me" and my marriage, but it was the catalyst that stirred my heart and taught me how to pray more effectively and pray God's Word. In fact, it is the book of choice, apart from God's Word, that I always recommend to any woman struggling or just needing help in marriage. My experience that has been that EVERY woman I have ever met has need for help in her marriage in some way, shape, or form. Who doesn't need to learn how to pray for their husband and their marriage more effectively?

It was nearly six years ago when I first read Stormie O'martian's book, The Power of a Praying Wife. I was really struggling as a wife and found that my husband and I were bickering all the time. After a heated "discussion" that ended in my realizing that I was failing at what I wanted to do most, encourage, the Lord led me to two conclusions:

1. Stop using YOUR own words; use mine (perhaps I'll share a post on this one tomorrow)2. Learn how to pray for your husband (this is what led me to Stormie's book)The Power of a Praying Wife is a powerful book grounded in God's Word. It offers 31 different prayer topics to pray for your husband, including:

1. His Wife 2. His Marriage 3. His Obedience 4. His Fears 5. His Affections 6. His Sexuality 7. His Finances 8. Many other great topics. The fact that it has 31 topics is a wonderful aspect because that is a prayer for every day of the month. After reading through the book, I wrote out each prayer and placed them in a prayer notebook and began praying the prayers every day for my spouse.

Eventually, I composed my own prayer taken from each of the most relevent topics for my spouse and entitled it "Prayer For My Marriage". I also began to occasionally email the prayers to my spouse with a special "love note" which he found quite encouraging. (Writing this post is convicting me that I have stopped this habit and really need to restart it).I soon found after developing the habit of learning to pray Scripture over my marriage that I was praying this way in other areas. I began to see lot's of prayers answered in my life. The one prayer you will learn right away when reading Stormie's book is "Change ME Lord". I promise you this is a prayer HE WILL answer and it is one He continues to answer in my life.

God bless each of you and I pray God's love and provision over your marriages.


You can read Amanda's thoughts on Heart Toward Home.

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Wendy Paine Miller



Pictured is Wendy and her family. Wendy is a writer and is preparing her first book, Noble Efforts to Engulf the Moon, for publication. Wendy actually has a couple of books she likes tremendously, but agreed to discuss the following one by Kathi Lipp because Kathi has offered a free copy to someone who leaves a comment and wins the draw. Thank you Kathi and Wendy!


Wendy writes ...

We thoroughly enjoyed The Marriage Project: 21 Days to More Love & Laughter by Kathi Lipp. Kathi writes with such a candid, humorous flare, I had to keep reminding myself I don’t actually know her in person. Her humility and eagerness to build a lasting marriage remind me of some of my dearest friends. One of those friends is the man I married. We read the book together. To-get-her (that’s how you get her, you read it together).

I loved how Kathi divided The Marriage Project into two parts, one part devoted to preparing for the projects and the other part for implementing and acting on each project. Understanding the idea behind 21 days, the amount of time it takes to make or break a habit and reading about seeing my spouse through new eyes got my ramped up and ready to do the projects with my husband.

And why did we decide to do the projects together?

Kathi provides the answer. "We can talk about marriage all day long. We can buy books and listen to podcasts about how we should have great marriages. We can listen to sermons and do Bible studies. But unless we put some God-acts to our God-talk, no one benefits." I wholeheartedly recommend this book.

Marriage is work. We dove into The Marriage Project at an ideal time. Our marriage needed some creativity and we needed to get intentional about our time together. The Marriage Project encouraged us with very specific and fun ways to reconnect.

The result: we bonded. We loved and laughed a little more and for that I’m deeply grateful. To learn more about Kathi Lipp and her book visit:
http://kathilipp.com/

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas and The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman also revolutionized our marriage.
You can follow Wendy's thougths on her blog All In A Day's Thought and her website. I appreciate Wendy for doing an interview with me and writing a review of Roaring Lions here.

Remember to link to Marriage Mondays for more reading.
And If you would like to read previous posts on Favorite Marriage Books, they are here:



Please Leave a Comment!!! We will have a drawing for the book Wendy reviewed, The Marriage Project. All you have to do is leave any comment to be entered. I will draw the winner in one week, and announce it next Sunday.
Thanks for reading.
Warren

Friday

ANTLER DISPLAY

Antler Display

Children never tire of learning. They are fun to be around because of their vitality and inquisitiveness. I wish I could maintain a semblance of that energy!

Every year I do a couple of presentations to local schools on "Animal Artifacts." Really, it is an antler display. For younger students, like the first graders pictured below, it is more show and tell. For older classes, like fifth graders, I talk more about science, the environment, and balancing the needs of farmers with the needs of the wildlife who share the land. I firmly believe we have an obligation to maintain balance and the health of the environment so all the creatures God made (both human and nonhuman) can exist here.

For the younger classes, though, it is mostly fun, and the pictures below will reveal that we did have some fun in a recent presentation.















My daughter Jenny with a first-grade student holding an elk antler. (Jenny graduates with a teaching degree in December, and will then begin a masters degree in teaching reading). It was neat having her accompany me. She hasn't seen my antler display since she was in the 5th grade.

























Do you know the difference between a mule deer or a whitetail deer? These kids do, now. And one boy already did! He could identify the mule deer, whitetail, elk, antelope and big horn sheep horns/antlers.









Do you have some interest, skill or knowledge you could share with your local schools? I've never had a teacher tell me "no" about doing a demonstration in class. Once teachers learn I do this, they call and ask if I'll come. Teachers are frequently looking for something to help illustrate what they are trying to teach in the classroom. Community involvement over the lifetime of a student's education can bridge the gap between academics and career. Think of something you have to offer, and call your local school today.

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Note: Thanks to Jessica for a brief review of Roaring Lions, Cracking Rocks on her blog, Booking It. Jessica is a writer and details her journey to publication on her blog.
Warren Baldwin

Tuesday

CRYING GLORY IN THE STORM (Psalm 29) & BOOK GIVE-AWAY

CRYING GLORY IN THE STORM

Nashville-based theologian, preacher (and friend of mine) John Mark Hicks wrote about the recent devastating storms in Nashville:

"Israel does not fear the storm but they listen to the voice of God in it. Consequently, Israel worships. The hymn of praise is what Israel sings in the temple; it is the praise to which the Psalmist calls the assembly (vv.1-2). Israel worships amidst the sounds of thunder and the flashes of lightning.

I remember as a child that the thunderstorm was always a frightening event for me. It was not that I was afraid of the house collaspsing or death, but rather I was afraid that the Jesus was returning and my childhood conception of God somehow turned that hope into fear.



But for Israel the thunderstorm is assurance rather than fear. God’s voice in the thunderstorm announces his reign(though not only in thunderstorms, of course). God asserts his power and majesty. The glory of God is displayed in it. Israel trusts the God who comes to them in the thunderstorm."

John Mark and I were classmates (for one year) in college. Years later he was my professor in graduate school / seminary. He currently teaches at David Lipscomb University in Nashville, TN. I still look up to him for mentoring and bibilical teaching.

If you have a moment, link over to his blog and read the rest of this great article about glorifying God in the storm. Crying Glory in the Storm (Psalm 29)

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Book Give-Away ...

Alisa Hope has a book review of Roaring Lions and a free give-away of one copy on her blog Faith Imagined.



Alisa has a great Christian blog. A blurb on her blog reads, "Alisa has published devotionals, articles and poetry; and she is continuously trying to reach people for Christ with her writing. She has also written her first novel and is currently seeking an agent."

She has a very popular blog and I encourage you to visit it. And leave a comment tonight because her drawing for the give-away of Roaring Lions, Cracking Rocks is tomorrow (Wed).


Warren

Saturday

MOTHERS ARE SPECIAL

MOTHERS ARE SPECIAL

Welcome to blog jog day. I'm sure I'm not linked up right, but I'm in it some how. From here please link over to The Courage to Create by Ollin Morales. Ollin has a neat blog. He is a published author of one novel and I know he does some writing on history. Here is the blog jog link with a lot of great blogs: http://blogjogday.blogspot.com/

My post today is in honor of mothers. As the name of my blog implies I write about family issues, some general articles about marriage and parenting, and occasionally some about my own family. I also plug in some things of general interest. Enjoy your visit today. WB

Mothers are special ...

May your father and mother be glad; may she who gave you birth rejoice! Proverbs 23:25

Why are mothers special? They give us life. God set in motion the procreative process many years ago, and even today, God’s plan takes godly women who are willing to be a part of passing on life. Today, more and more women are choosing to forego motherhood for a variety of personal choices. Fortunate are we who had mothers who wanted to bring new life into the world! We are the fruit of their choice.

Mothers are special because of their nurture. To a certain degree, nurture is inborn. Watch even a small girl as she cuddles her doll. Every small girl oohs and aahs at babies! In a home where a girl’s femininity is valued and even encouraged, that sense of nurture matures until as a young woman she holds her own child. Children deprived of a mother’s nurture—the cuddling, the gentle speech, the soft tones—sense that lack throughout their lives. Fortunate are we who had mothers who nurtured us through life.

I think mothers are special because they joyfully acknowledge anything their children do to show even the slightest appreciation for them. How many mothers have put a vase of weeds on the table for display because that is what their little ones brought them as a gift? How many refrigerators display the "art" of a three-year-old? How much soggy cereal, cold eggs, and burnt toast have mothers eaten with a smile on Saturday mornings because their kids wanted to play chef?

This is part of my list of why moms are special. I hope you have your list. Life can never be as sweet as it is meant by God to be unless we can look back with gratitude at the great work done in our lives by a mother who bore us, served us, and as we went off on our own, prayed for us.

(From Roaring Lions, Cracking Rocks)

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Some humor circulating in an email about moms:
If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be?
1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that.
2. I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it and not me.
3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her back.

What does your Mom do in her spare time?
1. Mothers don't do spare time.
2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom?
1. We're related.
2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me.

Why did your Mom marry your dad?
1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a lot
2. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.

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Two true stories about my own mom:

1) Mom always ate the white meat at Thanksgiving. One year she asked for a leg. We all went, "What? When did this change happen?" "You kids all like the dark meat so I always let you have it. But now you are grown so I figure I can start eating it again."

2) Mom and Dad lived in a new house for a few years when they accepted jobs at a Christian college. My sister asked mom how she could leave a new house. Mom said, "My home is where my family is (and not in any particular house)."

Hope all you moms have a great day!

Warren Baldwin

Thursday

Hitchhikers

Hitchhikers

I know, you are not supposed to pick up hitchhikers. But as I mentioned on FB this week, I did. And it was a good experience. I was a judge at state forensics in Topeka, KS on Saturday. I had to return home Sat. night because I'm kind of "on call" on Sundays :). I saw these two guys sitting on the ramp and thought, "It's just me in here, why not? We might have some great conversations about God, the Bible, and who knows what else."

Turns out that both of them are from Germany, but one of them has been living in the U.S. for most of his life. They have paired up to see America, Mexico and South America. I asked if I could do a story about them, and one of them actually provided the story below on FB.

From Tobias ...
















I have always had a desire to travel the world. Once when I was in Germany I met a friend who shared my dream. His name is Jonas. About six months after we parted, I wrote him and asked him if he was still up for it. He was, and so we hit the road on April 21st 2010 from Grand Rapids Michigan, leaving everything that did not fit into our backpacks behind. I guess there are many reasons for traveling around the world, but the main one for me is that I want to help people. I want to do God's will. I want him to tell me where to go, whom to help, what to say to them. Just the works. A pleasant side effect of course, is that I will experience adventure and see the world. We did not really plan anything, like where we are going to go, and how long we are going to stay there. That is up to God. It is all up to God. How long we can go and where we can go. Im ready for a great adventure, which I hope to get from this journey.


Day 11, May 1The day started out kind of bad. Cars were not stopping except for an officer who ran our ID’s. After some hours we both got frustrated, and kind of grouchy ... After a while we went to the gas station because it was so hot. We have to wear long sleeves and pants because otherwise we would be burnt to a crisp on this cloudless day. We sit around and observe people for half an hour, and then we go back. It is probably around four or five at this point. We only have to wait a short time and finally someone pulls us over who is going somewhere. His name is Warren and he is a Christian speaker, preacher and author. We are so glad to be with him. He drives us 170 miles west before he has to go south again.

The whole way we talked about Christianity, and history and marriage, and children ... He also invites us to subway for a delicious dinner. He has this blog online ... and he said that he wants to write something about us too. I guess its going to be about how he picked us up and our conversations. Since he seemed so interested in us, I asked him if I should e-mail him our story so that he would know what happened to us. He said that would be great and that he would post it on his blog as well. Warren was a great blessing for us, and at the end of today we are in a place called Russell, Kansas. We sleep in a field and watch the stars.


Jonas


I received a note from Jonas that on the next day they received a ride all the way to California! I was thinking I would track their journey on the blog or FB over a period of several days, it it was much shorter than that.

Jonas (or Tobias) made this report easier for me - he wrote it! I had to shorten the note he had on FB considerably, but you get the gist of it here. It was a great experience for me. These seem like fine young men who have done a lot of reading and studying of the Bible and current Christian writers. I was impressed! The best to you, Jonas and Tobias

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Thought I would throw in this picture ... glad to say we sold out the Garden City store's supply that night.




















And Tricia Lynch of Act Medium has a review of Roaring Lions on her blog. She is pictured here with her husband Chris. The Lynch's are looking at doing ministry for children in Wyoming, and you may enjoy reading about that on her blog. She also used it in a Water in the Wilderness Devotional on her website about their upcoming work in Wyoming. Thanks, Tricia.





















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Trey Morgan is hosting Dump Day to raise money for the homeless in Hondorus. If you get a chance, please link over there to see the pictures and video.

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FAVORITE MARRIAGE BOOKS ... Finally, because Sunday is Mother's Day I will not run "Favorite Marriage Books" that day, but will skip a week. Thank you all for your contributions! And if anyone else would still like to submit a book to have included as a guest writer, please feel free to do so!

Just in ... another book review currently up, with a free book offer. Go to Faith Imagined by Alisa Hope.

Warren

Sunday

Favorite Marriage Books #4

Favorite Marriage Books #4

Thanks for joining the continuing series of guest posts by fellow bloggers and friends about their favorite books on marriage. We'll have another post next week. And if you would like to participate, please let me know. Thanks to Melanie, Trey, Larie and Kyle for sharing their suggestions with us this week. First is ...
Melanie Moore


Melanie is a wife, mom, software developer and writer. She is pictured on the left with her husband and children. Melanie writes ...

As far as favorite books, I have a couple I would like to share...


The One Year Book of Devotions for Couples by David & Teresa Ferguson and Night Light: A Devotional for Couples by James Dobson.

When my husband and I went to pre-marital counseling, the pastor mentioned that we should always strive to spend time together in God's Word and in prayer. That seemed like a great idea, but to be honest, we never did it. It always seemed like we didn't know where to start and praying together felt very awkward. Then, we became parents and our time together became even scarcer. I was so excited to find these two books. We started with 'Night Light' and decided to just 'give it a try'. We loved it! The nightly devotions are very short (maybe 10 minutes) and applicable to our lives. After we finished that book (Yes! We finished the whole book together!), we moved to 'The One Year Book of Devotions for Couples'. We are currently enjoying this book very much and look forward to our time together each night.

Each of these books is formatted with a daily devotion consisting of a Bible Verse, short topical devotional, a couple of questions for discussion, and prayer thoughts. We really enjoy the question section because we have learned some very interesting things about each other! Just because you've been married for a while, please don't think there is nothing else to learn about your spouse! :-) I would highly recommend these books. They have made a huge impact in our marriage, and I can honestly say that our marriage has never been stronger because now GOD is the center of our marriage, home, and family.
God Bless!

Melanie shares her thoughts at Mel's Coffee Break.

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Trey Morgan



At left: Trey, his wife Lea, and their four sons.

Trey is a minister, husband, father, and avid runner. In addition to a ministry blog he also has one for jogging. He encouraged my college daughter after she ran her first 1/2 marathon last spring.

I have to admit that the book His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley has probably been the most influential in mine and Lea's marriage. Lea agreed and said, "It is the best thing we have done for our marriage."

We've probably read, used and recommended this book more than any other book besides the Bible. It has been a marriage changer for us and has helped each of us understand the other better. This IS the most used book in my library and in the marriage counseling I do.

Your can read Trey's thoughts at his blog Trey Morgan

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Larie Norvell



Larie is a wife, mom, blogger and soon-to-be published author. She is very open and honest on her blog about painful struggles in her life, including her battle with cancer. Somehow she always manages to maintain a positive, Christ-centered focus. Larie book selection is ...

Created to Be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl, profoundly highlights God's design for marriage by focusing on the wife's role. Mrs. Pearl soberly shares a few personal stories of her own as well as testimonies from other women whom she and Mr. Pearl have counseled. Taking the instruction in Titus 2:3-5, Debi teaches women how to love their husbands and children and possess the qualities listed in order to keep God's word from being maligned.

With the help of her daughter and son-in-law, Debi Pearl offers, "Wisdom to Understand your Man." This portion of the book tells about three types of men; Command, Visionary, and Steady. We learn here to recognize which traits our own husband exemplifies, which is meant to help us understand and carry out what is expected of us as wives. For example, I learned that my husband is dominant in the Visionary category, but also has some traits of the Steady man. After sharing the characteristics with him, he confirmed my findings, which then aided me in respecting him for how God created him. As the wife of a Visionary man, one thing I must learn is to be flexible while also respecting his delays in decision making as cautious wisdom and not weakness, which is a trait of the Steady man.

Created to Be His Help Meet makes an awesome engagement or bridal shower gift as well as an anniversary gift for a wife who may be feeling as if "it's over" for her marriage.

You can follow Larie at her personal blog My Heart Speaks and her writing website Her-Writeful Life.

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Kyle Stringham

Kyle and Marcy

Some of the work Marcy and I have done to support and preserve marriages has been to facilitate marriage Bible studies in our home on Sunday evenings for over two years in which more than 20 couples have participated. We have attended the marriage conference "Weekend to Remember" 7 times and have promoted and encouraged more than 15 couples to attend as well over the last three years. We've spoken to local church groups and the ministerial alliance about the importance of preserving marriage and the family.Currently, Marcy and I are teaching adult Ballroom dance, which is a marriage outreach in itself, in addition to being fun, promoting confidence in leadership for the men and an exercise in trust for the women. (Note: I go to church with Kyle's mother- and father-in-law. WB)

The book that helped me, and my marriage, the most (even though I could name many) is "Discovering the Mind of a Woman" by Ken Nair.

About the book: Discovering the Mind of a Woman is about husbands learning to understand their wives as Christ would, and then responding to their wives in a consistently Christ-like manner. The result? Radically transformed and renewed marriage relationships. The book is for men and husbands and focuses on the foremost need for Christ-likeness in a marriage, where husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church and in so doing would meet the deepest needs of a wife. The book points out that when a husband is pursuing Christ-likeness he will be less defensive and more responsive to the needs of his wife and family.

What it did for me: The book forced me to realize that my responses to my wife and children must be Christ-like and when I do that, powerful results have happened in my marriage and in myself. The book caused me to look at myself instead of my wife and kids for how I was acting in my home and in so doing God took me through a journey of painful, but important, self analysis and turned me around to being a lover, mentor, and leader at home.
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Remember to link to Marriage Mondays for more reading.
And If you would like to read previous posts on Favorite Marriage Books, they are here:
Favorite Marriage Books #1 and
Favorite Marriage Books #2

Thanks for reading.
Warren